Day 16 – Pause, and Breathe

I’ve been going strong on the healing work these past couple of weeks (16 solid days now of believing the girl). I’m absolutely convinced it’s been helping. The last few days have been especially intense. But I think it’s time to pause and take a breath today.

I tried to keep going. I started two different posts. One laid out a list I had originally written back in May, of all the thoughts and beliefs the little girl had about herself because of what happened with her father. It’s quite a list–and the sketch on the side of the list was how it left me feeling. Typing it up sent me to bed for two hours in the middle of the day. ( I’m on vacation this week, so I could actually do that.)

Later I took just a subset of the list and thought I would write an understanding, caring rejoinder. But I couldn’t get past the first sentence.

I think it’s okay if I don’t power forward every single day. I’m off to a restorative yoga class. Maybe I can just let today be about rest for me and the little girl.



  1. The pain and suffering you went through has affected you for a very long time…the healing won’t come in a couple of weeks. So yes, pause and breathe and gently push forward…one moment at a time. Celebrate each little step you take!

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    • You are right, of course. I can get impatient, though. I see I am making progress, and I want to go faster and just finally get it over with! Right now! Once and for all! Of course that’s not how it works. One moment at a time. Thank you for the kind comment.

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  2. Good morning Q. It’s hard to believe it’s been 16 days. I’m certain there is no set way to feel on this 16th day. However I know for sure that any self care that glistens in self-compassion is what we need to heal and move forward. Your little girl has helped me. I haven’t wanted to keep believing and contemplate ignorance each day. Ignorance is not bliss as they say. Yet I’ve continued on knowing I am not alone.


    • Maybe our little girls can be friends. They feel better knowing that they are not the only one that bad things happened too, and they can see that experiencing bad things is not the same thing as being bad yourself.

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      • I think they are already friends and also know the good things about each other, not just the bad as they can see beyond that. I like that you understand me. And trust and love and kindness…


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